Tag Archives: Safety

A prostrate Tigger offering a candy cane in both front paws

Top Trust: Guest Post by Dr. Slut

A prostrate Tigger offering a candy cane in both front paws

Today’s guest post is about why I am possibly an ethical top’s second-worst nightmare. Ouch. Trigger warning: Rape role-play, pushing boundaries, hardcore knives. We’re so used to talking about bottoms trusting tops. It seems so obvious: if you’re going to let somebody beat you up, stab you with needles, shove a fist up your ass, […]

Silhouette of a horned, bearded man against a lake of fire

When a Dom Drops Hard: Guest Post by Cowhideman

Silhouette of a horned, bearded man against a lake of fire

Today’s guest blogger is Cowhideman, the patient and prolific leader of FetLife’s Novices & Newbies group (login required). Crucially for us, he’s also brave enough to talk about the glory and horror of topspace. Enjoy! In a recent discussion thread, someone mentioned that their relatively novice Dom has suddenly shut down and very nearly stopped […]

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Consent Alone Is Not Enough: Guest Post by david stein

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I asked david stein if this important essay has been posted anywhere outside FetLife, and he promptly gave me permission to repost it here.I don’t deserve the honour. This is the man who originated “Safe, Sane and Consensual” and much more.But let’s seize the chance to read the essay here and now, before I manage […]

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Diabolical Genius, or I Love Interrogation

Gingerbread man lowering another gingerbread man into toaster

This post is part of the Eek! series. Also an e[lust] top three pick! Eric Pride is the devil. And a prince of tact. Um. Let me backtrack. I recently volunteered to help with Eric Pride’s interrogation class. I know nothing about interrogation, but this was not a problem, because I was to be the […]

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Ariel Castro: The Psychopath in the Mirror?

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“Help me, I’m Amanda Berry … I’ve been kidnapped, and I’ve been missing for ten years.” We all remember that 911 call last May. And then those terrible words in the news. Sex slavery. Chains, leashes. Torture. The stuff of our fantasies, now a spotlighted horrorhouse. It was so hard to hear about it. It […]