Waiter pouring wine

Am I Just Selfish? Service Versus Control

Waiter pouring wine

When I first found out about service subs, I was politely un­compre­hend­ing. No sex, no sensation, no humiliation even, why bother? Surely it would be less trouble to go to a nice restaurant and get served/hired? More authentic, too. Over time my confusion changed into awe and guilt. Probably because I tried to convert a […]

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What Would Eric Pride Do?

Gingerbread man cheerfully grating another gingerbread man

This post is part of the Eek! series. As you may recall, I recently volunteered to demo bottom for an interrogation class by that diabolical genius, Eric Pride. En route to negotiation, knowing I was nervous, he casually mentioned some terrifying implements of pain. Then he stepped back to better enjoy my reaction. The man […]

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Consent Alone Is Not Enough: Guest Post by david stein

A hand offered palm-up

I asked david stein if this important essay has been posted anywhere outside FetLife, and he promptly gave me permission to repost it here.I don’t deserve the honour. This is the man who originated “Safe, Sane and Consensual” and much more.But let’s seize the chance to read the essay here and now, before I manage […]

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First, Do No Harm: Guest Post by david stein

Leather Pride flag

Today’s guest blogger is david stein, the gay slave who originated the phrase “Safe, Sane and Consensual” way back in the 1980s.(Brief recess to retrieve our jaws from the floor.)More recently, he authored the incredibly valuable non-fiction resource Ask the Man Who Owns Him: The real lives of gay Masters and slaves and the embarrassingly hot […]