Eric Pride has left the community in the wake of pro-consent movements, stating that we have started tearing each other apart instead of standing by each other. I’m sad that he is not who I thought he was. This post is part of the Eek! series. I am ridiculously happy today. But it takes a … Continue reading Eek!
Welcome to Elust #58 –Â The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether youâre looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions itâll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #59? Start with the rules, come back June 1st to … Continue reading e[lust] #58
Today my blog is three months old! To celebrate, here is a rapid-fire review of all 28 posts to date. February 2014 Thank you for hurting me. Hey look, subversive stories! Some like it rough. Maybe casual scening isn’t so bad. Love is a hard master. There is no why. March 2014 It’s just like teaching preschool. Muggles … Continue reading Celebrating three months of blogging
This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. The critical reader may have noticed that I skipped over a pressing question in Abject Submission 3: Only the Gift. As you know, I realised to my surprise that some stories about emotional abuse were actually good for … Continue reading Just Say No?
Did you know that Humiliation Studies is a thing? I didn’t! Sadly, these researchers have no interest in helping us to scene better. They’re in it because they consider humiliation to be at the heart of all kinds of social turmoil and global conflict. The underlying assumption, of course, is that humiliation is a particularly intense emotion. And … Continue reading Humiliation Is the Most Intense Emotion?
This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. As you know, a few weeks ago I was frightened by my kink. I already knew I had been eroticising my depression last year – we emotional masochists are capable of amazing feats – but now I wondered if I had … Continue reading Abject Submission 3: Only the Gift
Irregular updates from now on. And yes, that’s my calligraphy. You guys are amazing! Support came from everywhere – BDSM blogging friends, Blogging 201 classmates, WordPress staff and HostGator staff. I got scared after my last post, because Ferns alerted me to one of her old posts on the Domme Chronicles. It seems that last year … Continue reading Not Censored. Thank You Everyone!
I have moved my site to HostGator due to the problems described below. Please excuse the mess on this new site. Someone is trying to get me removed from WordPress.com! Shall I lie and say that I am all agog to find out if they succeed in getting me censored? To be honest, it seems very unlikely. … Continue reading Censored and Welcomed
This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. After reading my last post about stories that do it for me, a friend asked, “What about Abuse â No rescue â Happy ending? Doesn’t that storyline exist?” In a way, yes. And some people love … Continue reading Dark Erotica Fail
Thanks to Cecilia Tan, Laura Antoniou and C for encouraging me to republish their text. I have added my favourite book covers. Winners are indicated with the 🏆 emoji. Check out the 2012 finalists too. (Columbus, OH) â National Leather Association: International (NLA-I), a leading organization for activists in the pansexual SM/leather/fetish community, announced today the finalists for … Continue reading Leather Writing Awards 2014
My mother sent me this not-quite-vanilla video. As the host apparently said, this is one act where you hope they’ll make a mistake! It seems these two adorable lads are French-Canadian acrobatic clowns who call themselves Les Beaux Frères, a pun on “handsome brothers” and “brothers-in-law”. I don’t know how long this video will stay … Continue reading Embarrassed. Gorgeous. Naked.
This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. As you know, I have started to worry whether my kink of abject submission is really about self-injury. Fiction proved to be such a good window into my fears that I decided to look harder at … Continue reading Abject Submission 2: Lit Survey
I am jumping up and down for joy. I just lost all the weight I gained from depression last year! It was more than ten percent of my body weight, and I gained it in one year flat. The doctor was really worried because my family develops diabetes when we’re overweight. So I tried to … Continue reading Bouncing Back from Depression
Welcome to Elust #57 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #58? Start with the rules, come back May 1st … Continue reading e[lust] #57 – Outed, Bruised, Queer
This post is Part 1 of the Is It Bad for Me? series. I am shaken. So far, all the the shame and guilt you’ve seen in this blog should really have been in the past tense. I knew people needed to hear my stories, so I told them, but after sixteen years you do get … Continue reading Abject Submission 1: Is it bad for me?
A security bug potentially affecting two-thirds of the Internet has just been reported. This one is serious – it will be headline news tomorrow. You can find out which websites are vulnerable by entering their addresses at Heartbleed Test. Chrome users can install Chromebleed to be notified immediately when they visit a vulnerable website. Update 5, Chromebleed review: I’ve stopped … Continue reading What Can You Do About the Heartbleed Bug?
We all need a bit of cheering up after that last post. But as a non-practical-joker, I was handicapped in celebrating April Fools’ Day. Instead, may I belatedly offer you some variegated entertainment in the form of images, words and music? First, here is my spanking new Pinterest board, BDSM Humour: Follow Yingtai’s board BDSM Humour on Pinterest. … Continue reading When You Need a (Kinky) Laugh
“Help me, I’m Amanda Berry … I’ve been kidnapped, and I’ve been missing for ten years.” We all remember that 911 call last May. And then those terrible words in the news. Sex slavery. Chains, leashes. Torture. The stuff of our fantasies, now a spotlighted horrorhouse. It was so hard to hear about it. It … Continue reading Ariel Castro: The Psychopath in the Mirror?
As you may remember, I have no shame about being female and therefore in a position of weakness. Nor do I feel particularly bad about being submissive and therefore wanting some such predicaments. But my masochism? Let’s not talk about it. No. Let’s talk about it. Masochism has a bad name. To the observer – … Continue reading Let’s Talk About Masochism
Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #57? Start with the rules, come back April 1st to … Continue reading e[lust] #56 – I’m featured!
You know the way you can hate yourself after an extreme scene? Well, Shakespeare did too. And, of course, he describes it better than anyone. Sonnet 129 Th’ expense of spirit in a waste of shame Is lust in action; and till action, lust Is perjured, murd’rous, bloody, full of blame, Savage, extreme, rude, cruel, … Continue reading Shakespeare Needs Aftercare
There’s an ache in your chest that hits sometimes when you’re a sub without a dom. I mean a real, physical ache. You want to grovel, you want to be cared for, you want to be done to. It hurts like hell. This has been heartbreakingly documented by Unspeakable Axe, who truly deserves his happy … Continue reading The Submissive Ache: Wanting and Waiting
My friends and I were not brought up to discuss sex, and so kink does not come up in conversation. But this has changed a little since I wrote my coming-out letter, because I have now come out to five more friends and one more brother (which is enough for now). As I expected, everyone was supportive. But … Continue reading Coming Out: The Sequel
I have read that American women feel obliged to seem cheerful and friendly to strangers, even when they’re actually grumpy or scared. Not being American, this was difficult for me to believe until a domme friend told me about something terrifying that happened to her, just walking to the train station. Maybe you’ll think it … Continue reading I’m Assertive Because I’m Weak – And Unashamed
Review of website: CollarSpace.com CollarMe.com (kinky personals). The morning after I signed up at CollarMe.com, I happened to start daydreaming about one of my favourite books, and a bolt of arousal shot through me. Normally this would not have been such a surprise, but I had believed I was dead between the legs due to … Continue reading Review: CollarMe.com and My Off Switch
BDSM: bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism. What does it feel like to need that kind of thing? One of my friends said, “It’s about fear, isn’t it?” Well, no, it’s not. I’m afraid of contact lenses and rollercoasters and they don’t do a thing for me. And I have been genuinely … Continue reading A Coming-Out Letter
When I was a sleep-deprived undergraduate, the only thing I got out of The Romance of the Rose was the lover finally getting to pluck the rose – yes, that’s exactly what you’re supposed to be thinking. Somehow I managed to miss this wonderful meeting point between medieval fealty and courtly love. And then I … Continue reading Collared: The Romance of the Rose
Eric Pride has left the community in the wake of pro-consent movements, stating that we have started tearing each other apart instead of standing by each other. I’m sad that he is not who I thought he was. Review of presentation: “Anatomy of a Play Scene” by Eric Pride (DomSubFriends at Paddles NYC, 21 Feb … Continue reading Review: “Anatomy of a Play Scene” by Eric Pride
Poor Robert Frost would be turning over in his grave. He probably wasn’t writing about masochism. And yet he said it for us. How the good stuff makes you feel real and alive and more. To Earthward Love at the lips was touch As sweet as I could bear; And once that seemed too much; … Continue reading Frost Nails Masochism
I love the traditional tropes of BDSM and slave fic – melting the dom’s dom, rescuing the fragile abused slave, Evil Is Sexy, mmmmm. But I also love it when authors turn these tropes inside out. Here are my favourites of this kind, fan fiction and original work, free and paid. They’re all completed works … Continue reading Subverted Tropes: The Fiction of the Unexpected
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