This announcement is old (20 April), but I thought you might appreciate a linked version. The đź‘Ť emoji indicates finalists, the 🏆 emoji winners. Enjoy! SEMI-FINALISTS ANNOUNCED FOR 2015 NLA-I WRITING AWARDS (Columbus, OH) — National Leather Association – International (NLA-I), a leading organization for activists in the pansexual SM/leather/fetish community, announced today the semi-finalists … Continue reading Leather Writing Awards 2015
I’ve had enough psychoanalysis for the moment. For a change, shall we watch my favourite maybe-not-quite-safe-for-work videos? First, the legendary Gypsy Rose Lee. A comedienne first, an ecdysiast second. And then there’s Sadie the bellydancer too. How do you make bellydancing demure and understated? I don’t know! I know these hula dancers are not strippers. … Continue reading Video Special: Is It Safe for Work?
Warning: Strong language. GRAPHIC language. Squick and squee. I invite you to partake of the riches of beat poetry. Please do NOT open this at work. Now I’m going to run and hide. Please Master Please master can I touch your cheek please master can I kneel at your feet please master can I loosen … Continue reading Please Master by Allen Ginsberg
When Laura Antoniou heard that the BDSM Classics Reading Group was discussing her novel The Marketplace, she offered to come over to our FetLife group to answer our questions. WOW. Now that’s fan service! We are repaying her generosity with the toughest questions we could manage. Thank you so much, Laura! 1. Not all of … Continue reading Marketplace Q&A with Laura Antoniou
This is the first post in the Submissive Power series. Famed kink educator Midori has a brilliant exercise for identifying your style of feminine dominance. First, she says to list all the powerful women you admire – from fiction, film, history, myth, your family, everywhere, anywhere. She had Brunnhilde, RuPaul and her grandmother, among others. … Continue reading My Submissive Icons Are … Strong?!
This month the BDSM Classics Reading Group read The Story of O by Pauline RĂ©age. Faced with the prospect of rereading it yet again, I groaned and went for background reading instead. And wow. Now I want to be Pauline RĂ©age! One day a girl in love said to the man she loved: “I too … Continue reading The Love Letter of O
I started a BDSM classics reading group! People actually signed up and everything! Squee! Ahem. For our first meeting on 3rd September, we’re going to read seminal essays from the Safe Sane Consensual debate. Unsafe at Any Speed, or Safe, Sane, and Consensual, My Fanny by Laura Antoniou (1995) The SSC Mistake by Joseph W. Bean … Continue reading The Consent Debate: Then and Now
This is the first blog post I’ve been able to write in a month! Hurray! I am so not the right person to write about polyamory. I wasn’t born that way, and I have no success stories to share (yet). I can tell you not to do it with someone who has communication paralysis, or … Continue reading A Love Poem for the Not‑So‑Polyamorous
To recap part 1 of this post: (1) Chronic pain can make even a masochist feel trapped in her body. (2) It’s just like the way my ex-dom and I felt locked in a miserable relationship. I may even have gotten all of my mixed metaphors into this tweet: I am SO GRATEFUL I’m finally … Continue reading Pain Is a Battering Bastard … And More (Part 2)
Once upon a time my dom was nursing me through some truly horrific cramps. I was not very lucid. A particularly vicious cramp took me by surprise, and I found myself whimpering our safeword. I will never forget the look on his face. To cheer us both up, he told me that I had a … Continue reading Pain Is a Battering Bastard … And More (Part 1)
