This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. The critical reader may have noticed that I skipped over a pressing question in Abject Submission 3: Only the Gift. As you know, I realised to my surprise that some stories about emotional abuse were actually good for … Continue reading Just Say No?
Did you know that Humiliation Studies is a thing? I didn’t! Sadly, these researchers have no interest in helping us to scene better. They’re in it because they consider humiliation to be at the heart of all kinds of social turmoil and global conflict. The underlying assumption, of course, is that humiliation is a particularly intense emotion. And … Continue reading Humiliation Is the Most Intense Emotion?
This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. As you know, a few weeks ago I was frightened by my kink. I already knew I had been eroticising my depression last year – we emotional masochists are capable of amazing feats – but now I wondered if I had … Continue reading Abject Submission 3: Only the Gift
Irregular updates from now on. And yes, that’s my calligraphy. You guys are amazing! Support came from everywhere – BDSM blogging friends, Blogging 201 classmates, WordPress staff and HostGator staff. I got scared after my last post, because Ferns alerted me to one of her old posts on the Domme Chronicles. It seems that last year … Continue reading Not Censored. Thank You Everyone!
I have moved my site to HostGator due to the problems described below. Please excuse the mess on this new site. Someone is trying to get me removed from WordPress.com! Shall I lie and say that I am all agog to find out if they succeed in getting me censored? To be honest, it seems very unlikely. … Continue reading Censored and Welcomed
This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. After reading my last post about stories that do it for me, a friend asked, “What about Abuse → No rescue → Happy ending? Doesn’t that storyline exist?” In a way, yes. And some people love … Continue reading Dark Erotica Fail
Thanks to Cecilia Tan, Laura Antoniou and C for encouraging me to republish their text. I have added my favourite book covers. Winners are indicated with the 🏆 emoji. Check out the 2012 finalists too. (Columbus, OH) — National Leather Association: International (NLA-I), a leading organization for activists in the pansexual SM/leather/fetish community, announced today the finalists for … Continue reading Leather Writing Awards 2014
My mother sent me this not-quite-vanilla video. As the host apparently said, this is one act where you hope they’ll make a mistake! It seems these two adorable lads are French-Canadian acrobatic clowns who call themselves Les Beaux Frères, a pun on “handsome brothers” and “brothers-in-law”. I don’t know how long this video will stay … Continue reading Embarrassed. Gorgeous. Naked.
This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. As you know, I have started to worry whether my kink of abject submission is really about self-injury. Fiction proved to be such a good window into my fears that I decided to look harder at … Continue reading Abject Submission 2: Lit Survey
I am jumping up and down for joy. I just lost all the weight I gained from depression last year! It was more than ten percent of my body weight, and I gained it in one year flat. The doctor was really worried because my family develops diabetes when we’re overweight. So I tried to … Continue reading Bouncing Back from Depression
