Well, that type of conversation is just so much easier for switches to have, because we have experiences from both sides. I’m constantly bewildered by how much I think most tops and most bottoms just don’t understand about each other. There’s a heavy gender overlap there too that just exacerbates the problem… And I don’t think the Leather tradition of having future tops learn by being bottoms necessarily solves that problem, because if the tops don’t really *enjoy* being a bottom–and especially if they never experience subspace for themselves–then they don’t really learn much except vague irritation.

It’s too bad that so few people want to write about that. I guess it’s the ultimate unsexy topic – except with your Midas touch!