LOL! You know us all too well. But that’s what’s going on in our heads, anyway. :p

You are reminding me of Guy Baldwin. Somewhere in his book, Ties That Bind, he says that both partners are communicating and driving the scene, it’s just that the top’s communication is mostly verbal and the bottom’s mostly non-verbal. It sounds so simple-minded, but I think it’s one of those unspoken assumptions that Explain So Much when things go wrong.

Unthinkable to demand attention, perhaps. But it’s not at all unthinkable to elicit or encourage attention. :) From my very limited experience, you submissive types have your sneaky ways of getting what you want. (and thank goodness for that!).