Comments on: Introducing the Abject Kitten, Part 1 /introducing-the-abject-kitten-part-1/ BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai Thu, 15 Oct 2015 14:12:14 +0000 hourly 1 By: Xiao Yingtai /introducing-the-abject-kitten-part-1/#comment-1071 Thu, 15 Oct 2015 14:12:14 +0000 /?p=6358#comment-1071 In reply to Jess Mahler.

It’s funny how our identity crises were about totally different identities, and yet I hear this huge reverberating gong of recognition inside me when you describe yours. I’m so glad you figured it out.

]]> By: Jess Mahler /introducing-the-abject-kitten-part-1/#comment-1062 Fri, 04 Sep 2015 16:20:21 +0000 /?p=6358#comment-1062 Somewhat the other way around for me. Several things had me convinced I was supposed to be a sub–I like being tied up and I’m a masochist. And it was fun, until it wasn’t, but it never worked. I slowly, with the support of a friend, started exploring domination. I ID’d as a switch for a while, but it was like a wool shirt–irritated even when it fit right. Took me a long time to realize that being a rope slut and a masochist did not make me submissive, that I could be a dominant who just happens to like pain and bondage.

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