Comments on: A Coming-Out Letter

By: Xiao Yingtai

Xiao Yingtai — Wed, 16 Jul 2014 09:36:27 +0000

In reply to Brian. Thank you! I really should stop being amazed that doms find it interesting to hear what makes a sub tick. After all I am still intensely curious why on earth they would want all that responsibility. Although you seem to be thinking of it more in terms of gender than I do?

By: Brian

Brian — Mon, 14 Jul 2014 14:17:20 +0000

Wonderful blog – thoughtful writing. Nice to meet you. It’s the thrill of finding out what truly turns a woman on that is as much a part of BDSM as ‘playing the roles’, I think.

By: Yingtai

Yingtai — Sun, 16 Mar 2014 00:21:12 +0000

In reply to JT. Thanks!

By: JT

JT — Fri, 14 Mar 2014 11:04:29 +0000

Wow. You do a great job of articulating things that defy articulation. :)

By: Yingtai

Yingtai — Mon, 03 Mar 2014 17:49:42 +0000

In reply to Steve. Apologies, it took me this long to figure out what you meant. I'm a little nervous when I read "prepared to do whatever I require." You are not throwing out the sub's right to limits, I hope?

By: Steve

Steve — Sun, 02 Mar 2014 04:16:02 +0000

I think I understand you. Women I was in the process of getting to know might ask what turns me on? After giving this recurring question some real thought, I realize what turns me on is not a specific act, but having the knowledge that the woman in my life is prepared to do whatever I require. It is her (slavery, submissiveness) and her being prepared to bend to my desires rather than any specific act that is my real turn on.