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	<description>BDSM, books and missing links by Xiao Yingtai</description>
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		<title>Hello and goodbye again</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Sep 2024 11:53:32 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;m moving for real this time! My web hosting company hiked up their fees. So I&#8217;m going to convert this blog to a static archive and park it somewhere much cheaper. The archiving process will happen over the next two weeks or so. The website should keep working from your point of view, minus search, &#8230; <a href="/hello-and-goodbye-again/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Hello and goodbye again</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
		
		
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		<title>Experiment over</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 19 May 2024 08:23:55 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Remember I said I was going to try moving to another blog as an experiment? It&#8217;s been over six months now, and the experiment is over. I&#8217;m going to close that blog down and come back here. I started the other blog because there hasn&#8217;t been a lot of abject submission in my life since &#8230; <a href="/experiment-over/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Experiment over</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Hello and goodbye</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 10 Oct 2023 12:19:30 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Hello, old friends. It&#8217;s been a very long time. And I&#8217;m afraid you may not like my news. I&#8217;m starting a new blog because it doesn&#8217;t feel right to come back here. I still love this old place. I made it to delight my eyes and it does just that. The tags and 404 page &#8230; <a href="/hello-and-goodbye/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Hello and goodbye</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
		
		
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		<title>Happy Valenniversary to Me!</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 14 Feb 2015 12:07:29 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Happy Valentine&#8217;s Day from a happy single! It&#8217;s almost exactly a year since I walked out of my ex&#8217;s apartment with my head reeling. Not coincidentally, it&#8217;s also just about a year since I started blogging. There is causality there, but it&#8217;s not what you&#8217;d expect. I think blogging gave me the strength to say &#8230; <a href="/happy-valenniversary-to-me/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Happy Valenniversary to Me!</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Resolutions: Looking Back, Looking Forward</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 04 Jan 2015 03:10:53 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Ah, New Year resolutions. I wasn&#8217;t going to make any. But then Sciophilous inspired me, and I realised that I&#8217;ve been making resolutions all along. This is a good time to record them. In this past year, I resolved to: 1) Accept that I tend to be a slave in relationships, and change from being &#8230; <a href="/resolutions-looking-back-looking-forward/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Resolutions: Looking Back, Looking Forward</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
		
		
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		<title>2014: Don&#8217;t Lose the Answers</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2015 01:45:34 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I have a confession. My favourite reading matter is this very blog. But I swear, it’s not just because I am so vain! It’s also because my memory is a sieve. It’s so bad that once when I was asked for a personal motto, I immediately ad-libbed, “Question Everything. Don’t Lose the Answers.” It’s particularly &#8230; <a href="/2014-dont-lose-the-answers/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">2014: Don&#8217;t Lose the Answers</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
		
		
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		<title>I&#8217;m Just Weird</title>
		<link>/i-am-just-weird/</link>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Sep 2014 15:00:00 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I haven&#8217;t worn a bikini since age 4. Legs? What legs? I like my sleeves, too. Oh, and I don&#8217;t drink. Alcohol, coffee OR soft drinks. Ick. Obviously, I&#8217;m secretly Mormon, I just haven&#8217;t told me yet. Though I hear Mormons are allowed to wear more makeup than this. And dance. EYES I can&#8217;t look &#8230; <a href="/i-am-just-weird/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">I&#8217;m Just Weird</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>What&#8217;s My Name? Of&#160;Calligraphy and Kowtowing</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Jul 2014 04:12:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[Scandalising the canon]]></category>
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					<description><![CDATA[God I feel guilty. I promised you more calligraphy ages ago and I never coughed up. Please release me from the promise? See, my joints are not as recovered as I thought. And work is going to eat a lot of my pain tolerance for at least the next 12 months. But I will calligraph &#8230; <a href="/what-is-my-name-of-calligraphy-and-kowtowing/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">What&#8217;s My Name? Of&#160;Calligraphy and Kowtowing</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>I Stand Corrected: Four Months of Blogging</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Jun 2014 04:01:21 +0000</pubDate>
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		<category><![CDATA[Devil on my back]]></category>
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					<description><![CDATA[Last week my blog was four months old. And I am stunned to realise that I&#8217;ve learnt more about my kink in four months of blogging than in a year of intensive reading before that. Unfortunately, that means that I&#8217;ve said things on this blog that I no longer believe. It&#8217;s time for me to &#8230; <a href="/i-stand-corrected/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">I Stand Corrected: Four Months of Blogging</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
		
		
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		<title>Eek!</title>
		<link>/i-love-interrogation-part-1/</link>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 25 May 2014 03:55:20 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Eric Pride has left the community in the wake of pro-consent movements, stating that we have started tearing each other apart instead of standing by each other. I&#8217;m sad that he is not who I thought he was. This post is part of the Eek! series. I am ridiculously happy today. But it takes a &#8230; <a href="/i-love-interrogation-part-1/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Eek!</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Celebrating three months of blogging</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 16 May 2014 11:30:49 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Today my blog is three months old! To celebrate, here is a rapid-fire review of all 28 posts to date. February 2014 Thank you for hurting me. Hey look, subversive stories! Some like it rough. Maybe casual scening isn&#8217;t so bad. Love is a hard master. There is no why. March 2014 It&#8217;s just like teaching preschool. Muggles &#8230; <a href="/celebrating-three-months-of-blogging/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Celebrating three months of blogging</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Not Censored. Thank&#160;You Everyone!</title>
		<link>/not-censored-thank-you-everyone/</link>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 01 May 2014 07:30:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Irregular updates from now on. And yes, that&#8217;s my calligraphy. You guys are amazing! Support came from everywhere &#8211; BDSM blogging friends, Blogging 201 classmates, WordPress staff and HostGator staff. I got scared after my last post, because Ferns alerted me to one of her old posts on the Domme Chronicles. It seems that last year &#8230; <a href="/not-censored-thank-you-everyone/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Not Censored. Thank&#160;You Everyone!</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Censored and Welcomed</title>
		<link>/censored-and-welcomed/</link>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Apr 2014 16:58:44 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I have moved my site to HostGator due to the problems described below. Please excuse the mess on this new site. Someone is trying to get me removed from WordPress.com! Shall I lie and say that I am all agog to find out if they succeed in getting me censored? To be honest, it seems very unlikely. &#8230; <a href="/censored-and-welcomed/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Censored and Welcomed</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Bouncing Back from Depression</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 19 Apr 2014 00:16:40 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I am jumping up and down for joy. I just lost all the weight I gained from depression last year! It was more than ten percent of my body weight, and I gained it in one year flat. The doctor was really worried because my family develops diabetes when we&#8217;re overweight. So I tried to &#8230; <a href="/bouncing-back-from-depression/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Bouncing Back from Depression</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
		
		
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		<title>Coming Out: The Sequel</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Mar 2014 23:30:07 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[My friends and I were not brought up to discuss sex, and so kink does not come up in conversation. But this has changed a little since I wrote my coming-out letter, because I have now come out to five more friends and one more brother (which is enough for now). As I expected, everyone was supportive. But &#8230; <a href="/coming-out-sequel/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Coming Out: The Sequel</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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