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	<title>Reality Check &#8211; The University of Abject Submission</title>
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		<title>How Should We Respond to Sociopaths?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 01 Nov 2014 08:50:58 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Dammit. Everything I said in my post on Jian Ghomeshi is true. But anger is not the way. People I respect have told me to try and hear others&#8217; needs and wants instead. But dammit, this one is a sociopath! Ego, charm, obliviousness, contempt &#8211; I&#8217;m not a mental health professional, but I&#8217;ve never seen &#8230; <a href="/how-should-we-respond-to-sociopaths/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">How Should We Respond to Sociopaths?</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Jian Ghomeshi: Scum of the Earth</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Oct 2014 07:56:05 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Jian Ghomeshi. The name makes me so angry. You say to your colleague, &#8220;I want to hate-fuck you,&#8221; and then you claim you&#8217;ve been fired for Safe Sane Consensual? You&#8217;re a professional communicator and somehow your partners keep walking into your home unaware that you&#8217;re going to whack their heads and choke them unconscious? You &#8230; <a href="/jian-ghomeshi-scum-of-the-earth/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Jian Ghomeshi: Scum of the Earth</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Am I Part of the Problem?</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 26 May 2014 01:00:03 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Two months ago I called for BDSM bloggers to write about vanilla tragedies. Now the blogosphere is churning with horror at the UC Santa Barbara mass shooting by Elliot Rodger. But nobody seems to be answering the first question I asked myself: Am I part of the problem? I&#8217;m a straight submissive woman. I was &#8230; <a href="/am-i-part-of-the-problem/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Am I Part of the Problem?</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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		<title>Ariel Castro: The Psychopath in the Mirror?</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Xiao Yingtai]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Mar 2014 12:30:22 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[&#8220;Help me, I&#8217;m Amanda Berry &#8230; I&#8217;ve been kidnapped, and I&#8217;ve been missing for ten years.&#8221; We all remember that 911 call last May. And then those terrible words in the news. Sex slavery. Chains, leashes. Torture. The stuff of our fantasies, now a spotlighted horrorhouse. It was so hard to hear about it. It &#8230; <a href="/ariel-castro-the-unheeded-call/" class="more-link">Continue reading <span class="screen-reader-text">Ariel Castro: The Psychopath in the Mirror?</span> <span class="meta-nav">&#8594;</span></a>]]></description>
		
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