Tag Archives: The view from down here

Man struggling with tied wrists

Dark Erotica Fail

Man struggling with tied wrists

This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. After reading my last post about stories that do it for me, a friend asked, “What about Abuse → No rescue → Happy ending? Doesn’t that storyline exist?” In a way, yes. And some people love […]

Statue of naked supine woman and winged, clawed demon crouched on her

Abject Submission 2: Lit Survey

Statue of naked supine woman and winged, clawed demon crouched on her

This post is part of the Is It Bad for Me? series. You may wish to begin with Part 1. As you know, I have started to worry whether my kink of abject submission is really about self-injury. Fiction proved to be such a good window into my fears that I decided to look harder at […]

Backlit knife behind a curtain

Abject Submission 1: Is it bad for me?

Backlit knife behind a curtain

This post is Part 1 of the Is It Bad for Me? series. I am shaken. So far, all the the shame and guilt you’ve seen in this blog should really have been in the past tense. I knew people needed to hear my stories, so I told them, but after sixteen years you do get […]

Agonised soldier pinned by aluminium baseball bat

Let’s Talk About Masochism

Agonised soldier pinned by aluminium baseball bat

As you may remember, I have no shame about being female and therefore in a position of weakness. Nor do I feel particularly bad about being submissive and therefore wanting some such predicaments. But my masochism? Let’s not talk about it. No. Let’s talk about it. Masochism has a bad name. To the observer – […]

Naked collared young man, head bowed, facing away

The Submissive Ache: Wanting and Waiting

Naked collared young man, head bowed, facing away

There’s an ache in your chest that hits sometimes when you’re a sub without a dom. I mean a real, physical ache. You want to grovel, you want to be cared for, you want to be done to. It hurts like hell. This has been heartbreakingly documented by Unspeakable Axe, who truly deserves his happy […]

Girl with coat collar over lower face

I’m Assertive Because I’m Weak – And Unashamed

Girl with coat collar over lower face

I have read that American women feel obliged to seem cheerful and friendly to strangers, even when they’re actually grumpy or scared. Not being American, this was difficult for me to believe until a domme friend told me about something terrifying that happened to her, just walking to the train station. Maybe you’ll think it […]

Kitten hiding between concrete slabs

Review: CollarMe.com and My Off Switch

Kitten hiding between concrete slabs

Review of website: CollarSpace.com CollarMe.com (kinky personals). The morning after I signed up at CollarMe.com, I happened to start daydreaming about one of my favourite books, and a bolt of arousal shot through me. Normally this would not have been such a surprise, but I had believed I was dead between the legs due to […]