I’m troubled by the recent consent violation news in the FetLife rope community. I need to clear a crazy work deadline before I write about it, but I thought I would at least share the reports with you for now.
Please note that you will need a FetLife login (it’s free). And if you want to make sense of the apparent contradictions, then keep reading into the comments.
First, the legendary Gypsy Rose Lee. A comedienne first, an ecdysiast second.
Last week, guest blogger Cava Supernova asked, provocatively, “Is racism sexy?”
She told us the story of an early kink encounter in which an awesome black man begged her to call him her nigger and her
sex slave boy.
This out-of-the-blue request floored poor Cava and she asked us to help her figure it out.
Um. I’m an emotional masochist. Just like that guy. So I didn’t even understand the question until commenters started chiming in, “Let me introduce you to the mysterious workings of degradation kink!”
Today my guest blogger is the outrageous and huggable Cava Supernova! She’s here to tell us about her younger self being being Dropped in the Deep End.
“Call me your n****r. Go on, it gets me going. I want you to call me your n****r.”
“Oh my god, no. I could never do that.”
“It’s fine. Please do it. Call me a ‘fucking n****r’.”
“No. I just can’t. I can’t do that.”
“OK, call me your slave boy, then.”
“Nooooo. It’s horrible.”
“I need you to, honestly. It really turns me on.”
Warning: Strong language. GRAPHIC language. Squick and squee.
I invite you to partake of the riches of beat poetry.
Please do NOT open this at work.
Now I’m going to run and hide.
When Laura Antoniou heard that the BDSM Classics Reading Group was discussing her novel The Marketplace, she offered to come over to our FetLife group to answer our questions. WOW. Now that’s fan service!
We are repaying her generosity with the toughest questions we could manage. Thank you so much, Laura!
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– This Month’s Top Three Posts –
Yes, Squirting is Real (And it’s not pee.)
These men make me SO angry
Still Kinky After All These Years ← This one makes me happy!
– Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) –
When It Rains
You want me to read what? ← Sex ed bonding with daughter!
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Happy Valentine’s Day from a happy single!
It’s almost exactly a year since I walked out of my ex’s apartment with my head reeling. Not coincidentally, it’s also just about a year since I started blogging.
There is causality there, but it’s not what you’d expect. I think blogging gave me the strength to say goodbye. It was the very first thing I did when I put my hands on a keyboard again, and it felt like getting my life back.
So many milestones since then. Continue reading
Recently Valery North paid me the gigantic compliment of a critical response to my blog post about submissive strength.
I came away wondering if I had contradicted myself. But dammit, I know everything I said was true!
And then. I realised. These apparent contradictions, they’re actually koans! That’s Zen Buddhist for paradoxes which help us to see a Higher Truth.
Ahem. OHM. Continue reading
When I started out on FetLife, I encountered a lot of Worrying Things. Like the hordes of people declaring themselves to be sapiosexuals.