This announcement is old (20 April), but I thought you might appreciate a linked version. The đź‘Ť emoji indicates finalists, the 🏆 emoji winners. Enjoy! SEMI-FINALISTS ANNOUNCED FOR 2015 NLA-I WRITING AWARDS (Columbus, OH) — National Leather Association – International (NLA-I), a leading organization for activists in the pansexual SM/leather/fetish community, announced today the semi-finalists … Continue reading Leather Writing Awards 2015
Yesterday was a terrible, horrible, no good day – until 6.20pm. Man on the street: Hello. [He gets a stare compounded of fury and trauma.] Him: Is something wrong? Me: You’re the second guy on the street who’s said hello to me today. And it doesn’t feel good. That was the low point of the … Continue reading How to Apologise When You’re Called Out
I’m troubled by the recent consent violation news in the FetLife rope community. I need to clear a crazy work deadline before I write about it, but I thought I would at least share the reports with you for now. Please note that you will need a FetLife login (it’s free). And if you want … Continue reading It’s a Bad Day for Rope Consent
I’ve had enough psychoanalysis for the moment. For a change, shall we watch my favourite maybe-not-quite-safe-for-work videos? First, the legendary Gypsy Rose Lee. A comedienne first, an ecdysiast second. And then there’s Sadie the bellydancer too. How do you make bellydancing demure and understated? I don’t know! I know these hula dancers are not strippers. … Continue reading Video Special: Is It Safe for Work?
Last week, guest blogger Cava Supernova asked, provocatively, “Is racism sexy?” She told us the story of an early kink encounter in which an awesome black man begged her to call him her nigger and her sex slave boy. This out-of-the-blue request floored poor Cava and she asked us to help her figure it out. … Continue reading My Emotional Masochism Isn’t Therapy
Warning: Strong language. GRAPHIC language. Squick and squee. I invite you to partake of the riches of beat poetry. Please do NOT open this at work. Now I’m going to run and hide. Please Master Please master can I touch your cheek please master can I kneel at your feet please master can I loosen … Continue reading Please Master by Allen Ginsberg
When Laura Antoniou heard that the BDSM Classics Reading Group was discussing her novel The Marketplace, she offered to come over to our FetLife group to answer our questions. WOW. Now that’s fan service! We are repaying her generosity with the toughest questions we could manage. Thank you so much, Laura! 1. Not all of … Continue reading Marketplace Q&A with Laura Antoniou
Welcome to Elust #67 – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #68? Start with the rules, come back March 1st … Continue reading elust #67 Makes Me Happy
Happy Valentine’s Day from a happy single! It’s almost exactly a year since I walked out of my ex’s apartment with my head reeling. Not coincidentally, it’s also just about a year since I started blogging. There is causality there, but it’s not what you’d expect. I think blogging gave me the strength to say … Continue reading Happy Valenniversary to Me!
This is the fourth post in the Submissive Power series. Recently Valery North paid me the gigantic compliment of a critical response to my blog post about submissive strength. I came away wondering if I had contradicted myself. But dammit, I know everything I said was true! And then. I realised. These apparent contradictions, they’re … Continue reading Submissive Strength: Contradiction or Koan?
